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By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Tue, 19 Feb 2019 19:00:40 +0000

In reply to The Style of Laura Jane. Thank you for giving me your views on it, as well as the personal thoughts you have had on it. It's really nice to see so many people read my thoughts on the topic, and get such lovely, open, and personal responses. it's moments like this, where I truly feel like a blogger, and that I have some sort of community. I write from the heart, and then people respond with not a word or two, but in sentences or paragraphs. It's true, there are things that make me happy and I realize that those happy moments to shape me to some extent. Thank you for reading and commenting Laura :) xxx

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Tue, 19 Feb 2019 18:58:14 +0000

In reply to Panty_Buns. omg thank you so much for your thoughtful and open comment! I'm glad I got you thinking about this concept, and I really am flattered by the idea that you think I have a balanced view on it. One of the things that I didn't really think about was Mental Health, and whether that was a hardship that has done me good or not. Thank you so so much for reading and commenting xx

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Tue, 19 Feb 2019 18:55:05 +0000

In reply to lolitambonita. I'm glad you agree with me! Thank you so much for reading and commenting :) x

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Tue, 19 Feb 2019 18:50:30 +0000

In reply to Zoë. That's one thing that I have questioned after writing this post. Mental health is so hard, the ultimate difficulty, because it's something you either constantly deal with it, or it always comes back no matter how much you fight and have gone through it before. While I think with time I get better with dealing with it, it's still difficult the next time I start feeling the same way. It is a hardship, but I don't know if it's one I'm necessarily happy about. I think having a mental health issue gives me qualities that maybe someone that doesn't have MH problems might not have, but I honestly don't know. Great comment! Thank you so much for being so thoughtful and open xxx

By: The Style of Laura Jane

The Style of Laura Jane — Mon, 18 Feb 2019 12:43:18 +0000

This is an interesting subject. There are some hardships I will never be able to properly appreciate for giving me any kind of benefit after. But I believe life is a combination of everything, and hardships are just as important as successes. I do believe I've learnt in both. When I'm happy, I realise what makes me happy (as weird as that sounds), I realise what success looks like to me and I see the beauty of life. Sometimes in a good place I feel connected to many years of my life, like seeing the beach as I did as a child. And then when I'm struggling, I develop in a completely different way. xxx

By: Panty_Buns

Panty_Buns — Sun, 17 Feb 2019 22:39:30 +0000

You have a very balanced and healthy view of hardships.
I have had a fairly long life and have experienced quite a variety of financial, emotional, and different varieties physical hardships at different times.
I am NOT grateful for the nightly spankings in early childhood, for injuries, illnesses, for being kidnapped as a baby, or for the times I was romantically abandoned or rejected and severely depressed later. I did, however, end up being heterosexually masochistic, am very grateful for the painful spankings girlfriends gave me over the years and for all those memories - but those were not hardships. I am also grateful for the things I learned from dealing with real hardships. Some of them just sucked, but some of them made me stronger. I am also very grateful for all the many blessings in life I have enjoyed and consider myself luckier than most. I'd be even happier if I could overcome my physical ailments and, better yet, become young again. I wonder where the fountain of youth and the holy grail are?
Best wishes for the remainder of year 2019 and beyond.

By: lolitambonita

lolitambonita — Sat, 16 Feb 2019 23:03:00 +0000

I agree with you... I mean I don't think anyone enjoys hardships but they help you grow and learn as a person so they really arw an essential part of life!

Lola Mia x

By: Zoë

Zoë — Sat, 16 Feb 2019 11:49:45 +0000

Personally I wouldn't change a single thing. I think all the hardships Ive been through have made me who I am today. However where does Mental Health come into this; for example I have depression and just feel really depressed a lot of the time, resulting in me just staying inside and crying. Does this count as a hardship? Is there a reason for it? Does it make me a "better" person? I love this post!! It really makes you think! xx

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