Comments on: Why is Slut Shaming Still a Thing?

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Mon, 09 Apr 2018 14:24:23 +0000

In reply to Jana Lopez. I haven't put a lot of these things into account. While birth control didn't exist, condoms have existed since the time of the Egyptians! I think it's terrible that women and children were ostracized, especially when it takes two to have a child! I am so with you in terms of embracing sisterhood and girl power. There's more than enough men, to not pit against each other. We have more than enough problems in the world without having to bring each other down. Thank you for this thoughtful comment Jana! xx

By: Jana Lopez

Jana Lopez — Mon, 09 Apr 2018 02:46:56 +0000

Great post Melina. This double standard goes far, far back in history. It's only been since birth control in the 60's that women have had a choice about having sex with only a small chance of getting pregnant. Before that women were turned out of society for unwed pregnancies and their children were ostracized as well. And we did it to each other. I wonder if women slut shaming other women comes from this same place; a fear of being cast out of society and rejected. More likely it comes from competition among us for men's attention. The thing is that there is far greater happiness to be found when we embrace sisterhood. We all share an astounding commonality that is so different from men. We need each other for support and love and encouragement. Together we are stronger, smarter and braver. Thanks for the post. It really got me thinking.

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 13:50:23 +0000

In reply to Lena Dee. I don't understand the thought process of women's clothing and how men behave. They should know better. They're adults. It says way more about them than us. I just get beyond infuriated when I think too much about this topic. I'm honestly baffled as to where they came up with some of these conclusions about women. I love debating this too! I think I'm going to continue this into a girl-power series, just cause I love talking about it so much

By: Lena Dee

Lena Dee — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 04:15:37 +0000

I'm so sorry you experienced that, I can definitely relate with a similar situations. I see it happen ALL the time, & I'm always fast to step in and defend someone, like what you don't like their style of dressing or their piercings or some thing so they're a slut? Honestly people piss me off so much that they still associate the way women dress and their choices of style to being a slut. Like what if she can't settle and keep finding douches so she sleeps around to have a good time? Should that concern anyone but her sexual partners? Like HELL NO! Ughhh. I would not forget sometime last year a relative of mine looked at what I was wearing and was like "all these short things and then you guys wonder why the men would want to trouble y'all" I was so pissed. I live in the Caribbean it's ALWAYS hot out and I'm young, I enjoy my shorts. It's like back in the day no one was complaining about all the nippy stuff our gran parents were wearing. And good gosh that comment boiled my blood and it's things like that, that encourages the heck out of rape culture. And honestly, some women can be annoying too, like they can be so fast to rise against their fellow women and join men in shaming us for our bodies and desired sexualities. Lol can you tell this is a topic I love debating and can get under my skin? 🙁 People are just not nice...smh

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By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Tue, 27 Mar 2018 17:15:58 +0000

In reply to The Teen Queen. Thank you so much! Means a lot to me :) xx

By: The Teen Queen

The Teen Queen — Tue, 27 Mar 2018 08:43:25 +0000

I feel so strongly about this! You’ve put exactly how I feel into words. Awesome piece

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Tue, 27 Mar 2018 02:03:37 +0000

In reply to Always Cleia. Completely agree, but I guess now we know for when we have our own kids, right? always gotta look on the bright side! xx

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Tue, 27 Mar 2018 02:02:56 +0000

In reply to Helene. I'm so sorry to hear that you had such a terrible high school experience. People do say that the struggles we go through help us learn things in life, and in this case it seems to be true. You're probably a wonderful mother, who allows they're children to embrace their true selves. Thank you so much for sharing your story with me xx

By: Always Cleia

Always Cleia — Mon, 26 Mar 2018 19:25:46 +0000

In reply to Melina Elisa. Yeah, growing up was an ordeal lol. There's a difference between guiding your children to dress in a way that you think is appropriate and flat out throwing in the s word. It's so not okay!

By: Helene

Helene — Mon, 26 Mar 2018 17:03:26 +0000

I feel for you. Though nobody in my family called me a slut, it was my peers. I went to a private school and there were no uniforms at the time. Most of my classmates were into super trendy name brands, mostly wearing clothing with alligators and polo players on them. I was really into punk/goth, and although I had to wear a skirt, it was always black, topped with a black shirt and jacket, black tights and doc martens. Basically, because I was the only one who dressed like this, I had to be a "slut." They never took the time to talk to me, listen to my music or see my artwork. They did however attempt to copy my tests and homework and be sure to let me hear behind my back that they could get away with it because I was a "nobody slut." People really need to stop judging others, and now that I have my own kids, I have been really clear about not being judgmental, and that's worked out. They are all a bit geeky, and I have one borderline goth, but they are all respected for their brains and personalities. No large friend groups, but the ones they have a good kids, and the kind who will stick up for them if anyone tries to shame them. Saw it with my own eyes. And that's the way it should be.