Comments on: Life is about second chances...right?

By: Second Chances are Okay, but What About Third or Fourths? — Melina Elisa

Second Chances are Okay, but What About Third or Fourths? — Melina Elisa — Thu, 03 Feb 2022 19:33:50 +0000

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By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Tue, 28 Aug 2018 13:56:43 +0000

In reply to Rebecca Jayne. I'm so glad to hear that! I hope that you go with your gut and do what's right for you. Sending you strength and positive vibes. Wishing you the best. Thank you for reading and commenting :) x

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Tue, 28 Aug 2018 13:55:51 +0000

In reply to alwayscleia. I completely agree! Second chances are okay, but after that they're not going to change, and as hard as it might seem for us, we just have to realize that for our own good. I'm sorry you had to go through something like this too! Thanks for reading and commenting Cleia xxx

By: Rebecca Jayne

Rebecca Jayne — Sun, 26 Aug 2018 07:16:58 +0000

I loved your post, I’ve been having this problem with a friend for the past few months and your post was really helpful x

By: Rebecca Jayne

Rebecca Jayne — Sun, 26 Aug 2018 07:16:04 +0000

I loved your post. I’ve been having this exact problem with a friend for the past few moths and your post was helpful x

By: alwayscleia

alwayscleia — Sat, 25 Aug 2018 18:14:30 +0000

I recently went through something similar, but instead of a second chance it was probably a 15th or 16th chance and I decided that I'm done. I completely agree that someone has to be sincere in an apology and genuinely feel regret for what they've done. This person spent our entire decade of friendship never even aware of how badly she was treating me or the people around her.
I think that second chances are good, but when its the same thing over and over and over something needs to change.

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Sat, 25 Aug 2018 13:35:29 +0000

In reply to mommaqueenconfessions. I completely agree! I was actually going to make a continuation to this post talking about if you give people another chance, how many chances should you give people. Like you said, you have to respect yourself and demand that others do the same! I'm a forgiving person, because people are human and make mistakes, but like you said it depends on the nature of what they did wrong to see if they even deserve a second chance. Thank you so much for reading and commenting such a thoughtful response Christina :) xxx

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Sat, 25 Aug 2018 13:31:06 +0000

In reply to Marie. Trusting your gut is probably one of the best things to do! I think in my recent situation, I definitely went with my gut. As always, thank you so much for reading and commenting Marie :) xxx

By: mommaqueenconfessions

mommaqueenconfessions — Sat, 25 Aug 2018 00:19:28 +0000

I would say every situation is independent and the answer regarding whether a second chance is warranted will depend on the nature of the wrongdoing. I would say the point at which you begin to deny additional chances and move on is when others are treating you less than you would treat yourself on a continuous basis. It is important to demand respect for you:) Remember, when someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them!

Hope this helps!

Christina

By: Marie

Marie — Fri, 24 Aug 2018 18:33:10 +0000

This is such a good post, Melina, definitely makes me think about second chances and some people in my life. I think that it's important to learn when we can let go of something and when we just can't, and it's also so important to know that holding grudges sometimes just lead nowhere and can end up being really bad on ourselves and on our own mental health, too. It's important to know when and if we can give someone a second chance and allow this new relationship to grow and get stronger, get past this obstacle, or not. In the end, it's a matter of a gut feeling more than anything else, for me, in these situations, but your advice is on point! :D <3