Comments on: Second Chances are Okay, but What About Third or Fourths?

By: 5 Bloggers I Consider Friends – Always, Cleia

5 Bloggers I Consider Friends – Always, Cleia — Fri, 14 Sep 2018 14:31:23 +0000

[…] real and down to earth her blog is, even when she’s writing about more personal topics like giving someone who has hurt you a second chance she always keeps a positive attitude in her writing. I also love reading her travel posts and […]

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 15:55:23 +0000

In reply to alwayscleia. Completely agreed! thank you for reading and for sharing your thoughts on this! xxx

By: alwayscleia

alwayscleia — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 07:51:54 +0000

I think that you can forgive someone without needing to forget that the incident happened, like just because you've forgiven them it doesn't mean that they get a blank slate with you to start over. Yes, after one or two times but after that I can make my peace with the person who for whatever reason keeps hurting me in the same way and not feel resentful, but I don't think that forgiving them means that I have to leave the door open for it to happen again y'know?

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Fri, 31 Aug 2018 14:01:46 +0000

In reply to The Style of Laura Jane. You are so right! I never thought about why I'm willing to forgive certain people on this that I would never when I was younger, and vice versa. Thank you as always for reading and your thoughtful comment! xx

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Fri, 31 Aug 2018 14:00:55 +0000

In reply to zoehware. Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment! I know there's no right or wrong answer. It totally depends on the individual and what's right for them! I'm glad you learned from your mistakes, and learned not to forgive people endlessly :) xx

By: The Style of Laura Jane

The Style of Laura Jane — Thu, 30 Aug 2018 20:19:17 +0000

This is a really interesting topic. I think it depends on the issue itself. As I've gotten older, there are things I've changed my viewpoint on, and maybe where I was thinking the other person was wrong, I was also expecting too much. I hope that kind of makes sense.
Then there are those who repeatedly just treat you badly and learn or try to change. And those situations are the one's where I say enough is enough.
I agree though, people can only change when their ready, and sometimes they are not worth the wait. Love the way you wrote this. xx

By: zoehware

zoehware — Wed, 29 Aug 2018 15:33:00 +0000

I use to be so terrible with giving people unlimited chances. I didn't want to be the person to cut them loose, or seem like the person with the problem, or like Im overreacting. However altering being messed over my whole life, I have come to the point where I am the opposite. There are billions of people in this world, you want to ruin the friendship/relationship? Fine, bye. Its bad because I give up on people too easily, but then when they dont fight for you either, maybe thats not a problem? I don't know, haha! Loved reading this and hearing your thoughts on it! xx

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