Comments on: friend breakups...but nothing happened?

By: Fridaze 060 — Melina Elisa

Fridaze 060 — Melina Elisa — Fri, 06 Oct 2023 17:01:41 +0000

[…] always nice to just sit down and have a genuine catch up. I always feel very lucky to have such close friends that I feel like I can open up to and not feel judged. I also like having friends who will tell me if I’m messing up or think I could have gone […]

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Tue, 05 Sep 2023 21:04:27 +0000

In reply to Laura Jane. Yes! I know for a fact so many people have gone through something similarly, but it's something that honestly never gets easier. I think it would be really difficult to go back as if nothing happened. As if things weren't weird for about a year or so. Thank you so much for reading and your thoughtful comment. Hope you're doing well Laura xx

By: Laura Jane

Laura Jane — Sat, 02 Sep 2023 13:48:58 +0000

It's easier in some ways to break up with a partner. It's normal to sit down and say, I don't think this is working anymore. With friends, it seems childish and weird to just say, let's not be friends. A really good friend of mine cut contact a few years ago, and I still don't quite get it. Especially as you said, you have these memories that no one else has — you can't discuss them with other people in the same way because they weren't there. You could always go back to your old friends and discuss your feelings. But even if they did invite you back out and stuff, I think you wouldn't be able to see them in the same way again. xx

By: Melina Elisa

Melina Elisa — Thu, 31 Aug 2023 15:43:54 +0000

In reply to Panty Buns. Thank you for such a thoughtful message. I'll definitely take your advice into consideration x

By: The Anatomy Of The Perfect Friday Night — Melina Elisa

The Anatomy Of The Perfect Friday Night — Melina Elisa — Thu, 31 Aug 2023 15:42:25 +0000

[…] meeting up with friends isn’t possible for you, you could go and attend a virtual hangout. Getting everyone together on a […]

By: Panty Buns

Panty Buns — Wed, 30 Aug 2023 17:57:00 +0000

Having been following you via your blog for quite a while I can understand how a breakup between online friends could feel very hurtful.
To me, as an outsider, it has always appeared that there has been a significant overlap between your in-real-life friends and your online friends, and in your blog posts all of your real life friends always seemed like fabulous company, very close, and like a lot of fun to share experiences with.
You also seem much more normal both in real life and in the blogosphere than I am!
I, on the other hand, am WAY older, have gotten even more reclusive than I was when I was younger.
Online, however, I tend to be more interactive. I also tend to invite less than complimentary comments from other bloggers, most of whom are unnecessarily polite and diplomatic. The people I know in real life who have seen my blog posts and YouTube videos rarely say anything to my face - although I do overhear occasional laughs and, occasionally, comments that make me blush.
I very much hope that your in-real-life friends will welcome you back into 'the club', and if they don't, then I hope your friends who do want to hang out will stay close and always be supportive. Wishing you all the best!
P.S.: There is no need for diplomacy if you or any of your real life or online or 'in the club' friends feel like leaving comments on any of the posts on my blog, xx <3 😀